There’s only an hour or so left on the clock before Valentine’s Day is over, but I thought that I would spend just a few minutes of that time sharing what I think about this little thing called love. I’ve learned a lot over the years, as most people do when they are in relationships and grow and mature, and I also realize that in the grand scheme of things, I still have much to learn.
First, I’ve learned that love isn’t selfish. Swallowing your pride is a difficult (and for me) and an ongoing lesson that love will teach you. You aren’t always right. You can’t always win. You have to look outside yourself for answers and resolutions. Needs other than your own are important.
Love isn’t always sunshine and roses. All the love songs and chick flicks in the world can give a girl a severely distorted view of how an authentic relationship looks. There are good times, bad times, so-so times, I -want-to-bang-my-head-against-a-wall times, and really wonderful fantastic times. Love will seriously test your clout and gumption. And your patience. And your will power. Love requires sheer stamina.
Love is something that expands and transforms in ways you could never begin to imagine until you’ve experienced it. Remember when you had your first case of puppy love and you were just absolutely positive that THIS how real, true love felt? Remember how naive you felt when later on you actually met real love face to face?
Love has many facets. The kind of love I feel for my husband is both the same and vastly different from the love I feel for my children. One day love is like a warm fuzzy puppy while the next it is so overwhelming it feels like it will crush you.
And finally, love is not an emotion. It isn’t a feeling. It isn’t butterflies in your tummy or sweaty palms or any of the other cliches. It is a choice. A decision.
A resolution to hang in through good times and bad. To know and believe that God will hold you to the promises you made when you stood at the altar and vowed to love, honor, and cherish. Love doesn’t come and go on a whim. It stands firm even when it isn’t easy. It clings to the time when it is. It puts one foot in front of the other and marches along the path and let’s no man put asunder what God has put together.
Of course, love is many other things (1 Corinthians 13 will tell you that) but these are the key points that I wish someone had told me before I began this marriage journey. I’m sure most of you already know this, but I think it’s a good reminder no matter your stage of life. I know I need to jog my memory from time to time when I’m knee deep in my own ideas about love.
So with all that said, I hope that you all had a fantastic day celebrating the love that is in your life. What lessons has life taught you about love?