Anyone with children appreciates those quiet moments! Does having a “quiet spirit” mean that our children will be quiet all the time!
To see how to help our children develop a quiet spirit, we have to know what the Bible says about a quiet spirit.
The verse that comes first to mind is directed to godly wives:
but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. I Peter 3:4
We could blow over this verse as it is not directed to children; however, if we really want our children to develop a quiet spirit, then we as moms must exemplify a quiet spirit in our own lives. The old adage, “It’s easier caught than taught,” or “Monkey-see, monkey do” certainly applies here. If we are loud, argumentative, or pushy, our children will pick up on those behaviors as well. Very convicting, is it not?
From this verse, what could be a good definition of a quiet spirit?
Here is what Matthew Henry says about this phrase:
A quiet spirit is “a tractable easy temper of mind, void of passion, pride, and immoderate anger, discovering itself in a quiet obliging behaviour towards their husbands and families. . . . A true Christian’s chief care lies in the right ordering and commanding of his own spirit. . . a composed, calm, and quiet spirit, renders either man or woman beautiful and lovely.
So we could say that a quiet spirit envelops these character qualities that we want to encourage in our children’s lives:
- does not get angry easily
- is willing to give/does not have to have his/her own way
- has self-control
- does not have to be the center of attention
- is a good listener
- is not nosy
Here are some verses that could be used to share with children the importance that God’s Word puts on having a quiet spirit:
- I Peter 3:4 ends by saying that a quiet spirit is precious in God’s sight! If God places value on a quiet spirit (even says it is precious!), then it should be important to us!
- Those who talk all the time and have to let everyone knows how much “he knows” is considered a fool: “Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.” Proverbs 17:28 ESV
- God commands us to be slow to wrath or anger: “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:” James 1:19
- It should be a goal to live quietly; to mind your own business! We will be a good example to unbelievers when we live this way. 11 “and to aspire to live quietly, and to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands, as we instructed you, 12 so that you may walk properly before outsiders and be dependent on no one.” I Thessalonians 4:11-12
- Being silent (quiet spirit) is important if we want God to be able to work in our hearts and convict us of sin: “Teach me, and I will be silent; make me understand how I have gone astray.” Job 6:24
- If we are to know God, we will have to develop a quiet spirit (stillness/calmness): “Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth!” Psalm 46:10
Here is a worksheet that older children could do that would go with these verses:
Besides talking about these verses, how can we encourage our children to have a quiet spirit?
- Reinforce positively behavior such as sharing, preferring someone else, self-control, etc.
- When anger or impatience is shown, talk about how that does not exemplify a quiet spirit, and we know a quiet spirit is precious to God.
- When you can see a situation escalating where tempers will flare up, have them move them to a quiet spot where they can think for a moment or remove the frustration to help them to realize that they can be slow to speak and slow to anger if they are still and ask for God’s help.
- Take something bitter like lemon juice and let them have a taste. Then let them taste candy or sugar. Talk about how anger and unkindness leaves a bitter taste to those around them, but kindness and patience makes others think kindly of them and reflects highly on their Savior.
How do you encourage your children to have a quiet spirit?
Tammy is a mom of 5 children, an assistant pastor’s wife, and a blogger at Creative K Kids. Four of her children are girls that all have names starting with K! Tammy shares her family’s crafts, recipes, printables, and pictures as well as her thoughts on trying to be a godly mom and wife on Creative K Kids. You can also follow her on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, and Pinterest.
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